ds” then. It’s much harder to say goodbye to a friend you’ve let yourself be in love with. It’s harder still when you’ve also had sex with him… trust me, I know from experience.
My advice? Realize that what you’ve probably got is just a crush. Sounds girly? Nope, guys do it all the time, even on uys. It doesn’t necessarily mean sexual desire, it doesn’t mean anyone’s gay, it doesn’t mean he’d make a good boyfriend. (First boyfriend, I’m guessing?)
Figure out why you like this guy so much. Sounds like you really look up to him. Work on being like him, if you want. But don’t worry about getting into his pants… even if it’s frustrating… don’t make things harder on yourself by making the eventual separation that much more painful. Focus on knowing who you are and what you want. You’ll be that much more ready for a real relationship when the right person (guy irl) es along.
Think about it… right now, you’re just going to miss seeing him and hearing him and being around him. If you try to get him into bed, and you succeed, you’ll wind up missing his toud the feel of him in your arms and the way his body feels on yours. If you try to get him into bed, and FAIL ― it’ll be awkward, even if he doesn’t get mad about it.
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Jazz says:
March 28, 2011 at 10:31 am
Thank you so much- This has helped alot :)
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Tj says:
April 9, 2011 at 8:57 pm
Thanks for the respoo my last question, it def quelled a lot of my wonder and decided unless clearly in lust to not go there with this bro of a friend.
I’m of course ied in araight guy or more just bewildered by…he came by the other day to meet my son and hang with my babymama when i went to go grab beers for us he followed me into the kit and said ‘so you’re home a lot now?’ (staying at home with the baby) and I said that yes to which his reply was ‘well I’m free most Friday afternoons’ and of course before he left he made sure to get my his dude is mor